Are you being your true self?
Are you being your true self or are you a version of yourself that other people have formed you into? With social media and the internet it’s hard to know what is real and fake. There are a lot of fake posts and people online. Are you letting them shape you into a different person. Are you doing things you normally wouldn’t do to look better in their eyes?
This doesn’t just have to be people online either. There can be people in your life that make you feel you have to act or look a different way. I want to give you some tips to help with connecting with who you really are and letting go of other’s expectations of you.
Find out what makes you happy
Make a list of all the things that make you happy. It doesn’t have to be in any order just write anything that comes to mind down. Next ask yourself how many of those things are you doing in your life. Chances are not a lot of them.
Now write down all the things you don’t like doing in your life. Are you doing these things because other people expect you to? Maybe try eliminating some of them. For example: I use to spend an hour putting on my makeup in the morning. It had to be perfect. I wanted to look like those girls on Instagram that were flawless. The truth was I hated using my time to put on makeup. I could think of a thousand other things I could be doing. So I scaled back. I still enjoy using makeup but now it only takes me 10 minutes.
It’s not perfect but it works for me. That’s the important thing. As long as it works for you. Then it doesn’t matter what others are doing.
Look at the people you are letting into your life
Take a look at who is in your life. Start with your everyday encounters: your family, friends, co-workers, the guy at the coffee shop and who you follow on social media. How do they make you feel? If whenever you see them you start to feel less than, maybe it’s time to distance yourself from them.
With family this can be hard. If you can’t put distance between them then maybe talk to them. Let them know that when they say or do a certain thing it makes you feel inadequate and like you can’t measure up. Sometimes just talking to someone will help.
On social media start unfollowing anyone who don’t make you happy when you see their posts. Comparison can steal your joy and you deserve to be happy. Take a few minutes and go through who you are following and ask yourself: do I enjoy looking at their posts? If the answer is no then unfollow.
Spend more time with yourself
Find more quiet time to connect with you and find out who you really are. You can meditate, take a bath, read a self-help book or journal. Anything that will help you connect with your mind and spirit to figure out who you are. So you can stop comparing yourself and changing who you are. You are perfect the way you are! Don’t let anyone change that.
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