apologizing pin 2 (1)

Expectations of motherhood

Expectations of motherhood

When I was pregnant I had this vision in my head of what motherhood would look like. I knew it was going to be wonderful. My baby would be so cute and as she grew we would play together and have so much fun.  Being a mom was going to be a breeze. I laugh at that thought now. Motherhood is definitely not easy and definitely not what I expected.

It’s alright to admit that being a mother is not what you thought it would be and sometimes it’s not fun at all. Sometimes you want to lock yourself in a closet and cry. It’s stressful and overwhelming.  No one is a perfect mother but we are all just doing the best we can.

Continue reading “Expectations of motherhood”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

Does self comparison drive you crazy?

Self-comparison

I think our need to be perfect comes from many things but one main issue is comparison. We look at someone else’s life and think that they have it all together. They are doing everything right and they look great while doing it.  Well let me just tell you that no one has the shit together 100% of the time. There’s absolutely no way that is possible.

Continue reading “Does self comparison drive you crazy?”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

Trying to be Perfect at Everything

I use to be a perfectionist. I would drive myself crazy worrying about every little detail and trying to make everything just right. Not only did I drive myself crazy but I drove everyone around me crazy too. My kids had to have the perfect outfit, birthday and presents. Every time my husband did something to help me out it wasn’t good enough because he did it wrong. I would spend entire weekends cleaning my house so it looked amazing (which is next to impossible with 3 kids). I was getting burnt out trying to make my life look perfect.

Continue reading “Trying to be Perfect at Everything”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

Learning to Love Yourself

One of the hardest things to do is to learn to love yourself. With my need to be perfect all the time I never felt I was good enough. I always compared myself to other people who I thought were getting it right. I never took time for me because I felt I needed to keep going to keep up with all the other “perfect” moms out there.

Continue reading “Learning to Love Yourself”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

Doing Away with Mom Guilt

Mom guilt – we all have it. There is always something that we feel we are doing wrong or something that we see other moms doing better than us. It’s always there in the back of our minds making us feel like horrible moms. We need to stop and just realize that we are doing the best we can.

Continue reading “Doing Away with Mom Guilt”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

The “perfect” Christmas

 

The perfect christmas

Christmas is my favorite holiday. I love the music, lights, and peaceful feeling I get. The best thing is seeing my kids faces when they see the presents under the tree. I use to go overboard trying to make the pile of presents look huge. I would get things from the dollar store (that they never played with) to make it look like more. But then I realized that I was spending money on things that they never even touched or the toy would end up on their floors. It created more clutter which then would stress me out. But again I was trying to make everything perfect.

Continue reading “The “perfect” Christmas”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

My Imperfect Thanksgiving

Imperfect Thanksgiving

 

I use to hate holidays. My need to be perfect would usually ruin holidays. My kids would be grumpy and I would be stressed just trying to make it perfect. This year is going to be different. I’m not going to aim for perfection. I’m going to have an imperfect Thanksgiving.

Continue reading “My Imperfect Thanksgiving”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

How I’m working on not having the “perfect” birthday party for my kids

Not worrying about the perfect birthday party
My oldest is turning 16 this week. It’s hard to believe. I came into her life when she was 10 months old. Technically she is my step-daughter but I have been raising her since she came into my life so she is my daughter in every sense of the word. It’s hard to believe that the time has gone this fast.

Continue reading “How I’m working on not having the “perfect” birthday party for my kids”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

The three things that make me feel like I have my life together

The three things that make me feel like I have my life together

Most days I try my best to have it together and most days I fail. Once in a while I have an amazing day and figured out it’s when these three things align. I notice that I’m a happier person and I have more patience. I live in the real world though so I can’t get these three things to align all the time but I’m working on it and that’s all that I can do. I know I don’t have to do all three perfectly but as long as I can get them done it usually helps me get through the day.

Continue reading “The three things that make me feel like I have my life together”

apologizing pin 2 (1)

What does perfect mean anyway?

What does perfect mean anyway?

I am a perfectionist. My philosophy has always been if I can’t do it perfectly then there’s no point in doing it at all. Boy did I miss out on doing a lot of things. The truth is I’m never perfect. What is perfect? Who decides what perfect is? If we don’t really ever truly know what perfect is then how can we reach it? We can’t and we need to start accepting that.

Continue reading “What does perfect mean anyway?”