As moms we feel that we need to get it all done and done well. We beat ourselves up if we miss something or we weren’t able to fit everything into our days. First take a deep breathe. I promise you are not the only one who feels this way. I feel this way all the time but I’ve come up with a few tips for you on how to feel like you have everything under control and can get things done.
Plan, plan and then plan some more
Well you knew this was going to be the first tip. We can’t get anything done if we don’t have a plan first. Every time you get a paper home from school or an appointment card put it in your calendar. Whether your calendar is digital or paper put it in there right away before the paper gets lost (might have happened to me a few times). If you have an electronic calendar set reminders. If it’s a paper calendar make sure you are constantly looking at it and remembering what you have planned.
Next plan backwards from the date of the appointment. If your child has a school concert and you need to get them an outfit to wear then put that in your calendar at least a week before the concert. You don’t want to be running around the night before looking for an outfit. It’s not only important to put the event in your calendar but to plan what you will need, how much money and the time to do these things. Put all of it in your calendar.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
If you are feeling overwhelmed with everything don’t be afraid to ask someone to help. Ask your husband, kids, neighbors or other family members to help you out. If someone says they are running to the store don’t be afraid to say hey can you pick me up something. It will save you a trip and it’s not an inconvenience because they were already going anyway. My mom, sister and me do this. We live in the same town so if one of us is going to the store we let each other know that way if anyone needs something we can grab it for them. Do this with a friend or neighbor to save yourself unnecessary trips to the store.
If you need to get a babysitter. It is not selfish to get a babysitter so you can get things done. I know it is very hard to go shopping with a toddler. It would drain my energy so fast. If you know you can get it done faster and more efficient without the kids in tow then ask someone to watch them for you so you can do it. This will save you time and stress.
Do not take on too much
Do not overschedule yourself. You can’t be in two places at the same time or be running from one activity to the next without stopping to eat and take care of you. You are going to be really stressed if you are juggling more than you can handle. If you can’t even take a few minutes to stop and eat or you are eating on the run then you might be over scheduling a bit. Pick what is important. If your kids have too more activities and you just can’t get them all to where they need to be without stressing yourself out then maybe cut back on some. Your kids will be alright especially if they have a mom who is less stressed and really there for them during the activity they really love.
Give yourself grace
There will be days that you forgot to bake cupcakes for a school party or you forgot all about that dentist appointment. Do not be too hard on yourself. We are all human and we are allowed to make mistakes. Admit them and then try to move on. Tell the teacher or dentist that you just forgot and ask how you can make it up. Do not start telling yourself how horrible a mom you are or any other negative thing because it’s not true. You are not perfect. We can not be expected to do everything perfectly all the time without any errors including this thing called life. Give yourself grace and forgive yourself.
If you have any other tips I would love to hear them. Please leave me a comment and remember do the things that are most important to you and don’t stress yourself out over the little things.