How many times have you apologized for not doing something perfect or it not being up to your standard. What you are really doing is saying “ I’m sorry I’m not perfect”. You are apologizing for being human. We are not perfect and we don’t need to apologize for that.
For my son’s birthday we were in the middle of moving so I didn’t have time to bake cupcakes for his class. I ran to the store the night before and grab some cupcakes. When I handed them to the teacher the next morning I apologized to her. I told her we were in the middle of moving and I was so sorry I didn’t have time to bake cupcakes. Why was I doing that? The teacher is probably just glad that I remembered so she had a snack for her class that day. The kids could care less if cupcakes are store bought or homemade as long as they get to eat them.
Why did I feel so guilty then? I felt like a horrible mom because I didn’t deliver homemade cupcakes. I was judging my mothering skills on one moment. A moment might I add that I did nothing wrong in. So what the cupcakes aren’t homemade. The important thing is that my son thought the cupcakes were awesome and he couldn’t wait to share them with his class. Instead of focusing on that and enjoying my son’s excitement, I felt ashamed and embarrassed that they were store bought.
I was letting my need for perfection take over again. One small moment was ruining my day and my son’s birthday. I knew then I would try hard to stop apologizing for not being perfect. I will work on changing my mindset around thing and making them positive. Next time instead of apologizing to my son’s teacher I will say “My son thinks these cupcakes are awesome and I hope the kids like them.” I need to be confident that store bought cupcakes are not the end of the world.
Have you felt like this before? I would love to hear your story and connect with moms who feel the same way I do. Please comment below. I would love to hear from you.