Does self comparison drive you crazy?
I think our need to be perfect comes from many things but one main issue is comparison. We look at someone else’s life and think that they have it all together. They are doing everything right and they look great while doing it. Well let me just tell you that no one has the shit together 100% of the time. There’s absolutely no way that is possible.
So take a look at what you are comparing yourself to. Are you only seeing their social media accounts? I’m pretty sure they are not putting the meltdowns and mess on their account. They get to choose what you see so they only put the good things on there. That’s not really them.
Even if you know someone in real life they can still only be giving you a tiny glimpse into their life. They can hide the bad parts from you so what you think you are seeing isn’t even real. Even if they talk to you about the bad times they can still be hiding some things.
My point is you can never really know someone’s life unless you walk in their shoes and most of the time we can’t do that. Don’t compare yourself to them based on just a tiny glimpse of their life. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Be better than yesterday, that is all that you should be focusing on.
Think about this: when you are comparing yourself to someone else do you feel happy? Do you enjoy doing that? No of course not – comparison is the thief of joy. Comparing makes you miserable and makes you question who you are.
Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, think instead of you who use to be. How far have you come? What have you accomplished? There is always something that you have improved at. This will make you feel so much better than comparing yourself to someone else.
Remember that you are enough and you don’t need to try to be better than anyone else. We are all different and we should just focus on doing the best we can.