Is perfectionism ruining your life?
I am a recovering perfectionist. I am working hard on it everyday by focusing on my new motto of done is better than perfect. Being a perfectionist was ruining my life and making my family miserable. I realized that I needed to change in order to be happy and have a happy life. Here are some examples of how perfectionism was ruining my life and my tips to how I’m working on overcoming it.
I never finished anything
I would always start a project but then not finish it because I couldn’t make it perfect. There are tons of half finished scrapbooks, blog posts, planners and house projects. Never feeling it was good enough I would give up and just not finish them. I was showing my kids that it’s alright to quit on something just because you can’t be perfect at it. That was definitely not what I wanted to teach my children.
Now I just do it. Really I can’t explain it better than that. I just get it done. It may not look exactly how I wanted it to look but I finished it. I stopped analyzing over every little detail and just did it. I want my kids to know how important it is to finish what you started and now I will lead by example.
Perfectionism held me back from my dreams
I have wanted to start a blog for forever but I was so afraid of what others would think and that it would never be good enough. The result was I never started one. That was until one day I was tired of talking about it and knew I needed to take action. I wanted my kids to follow their dreams but how were they suppose to when I wasn’t. Again I needed to lead by example so I just did it.
My first blog post was not very good and I learn something new everyday but I’m doing it and I enjoy it so much. If you want to check out that first post you can HERE. I’m so glad I started.
I wasn’t focusing on what was important
I was so focused on making everything perfect that I wasn’t focusing on the most important thing to me – my children. This was actually driving them crazy with my need for them to always look nice and not make a mess. I needed my house to look perfect so my kids weren’t allowed to make a mess (which is crazy because that’s what kids do best).
Now I’m not saying the mess doesn’t drive me nuts and I have to give myself a pep talk when I see it to not freak out. But my kids can play and not worry about mom yelling and making them clean. I don’t worry about the perfect outfit and fight with my kids to wear it. This is the biggest area I have improved on and I hope my kids will agree. Now I spend more time with them. I let the mess sit there for a little bit so I can enjoy time with them. They are only young for a little bit so I need to enjoy them. I want them to grow up in a loving relax home. So I had to change my ways to do that.
I know change is hard and it takes time to go through it. I’m not saying it will be easy but it will be worth it.