I am a recovering perfectionist. I am working hard on it everyday by focusing on my new motto of done is better than perfect. Being a perfectionist was ruining my life and making my family miserable. I realized that I needed to change in order to be happy and have a happy life. Here are some examples of how perfectionism was ruining my life and my tips to how I’m working on overcoming it.
I never finished anything
I would always start a project but then not finish it because I couldn’t make it perfect. There are tons of half finished scrapbooks, blog posts, planners and house projects. Never feeling it was good enough I would give up and just not finish them. I was showing my kids that it’s alright to quit on something just because you can’t be perfect at it. That was definitely not what I wanted to teach my children.
Now I just do it. Really I can’t explain it better than that. I just get it done. It may not look exactly how I wanted it to look but I finished it. I stopped analyzing over every little detail and just did it. I want my kids to know how important it is to finish what you started and now I will lead by example.
Perfectionism held me back from my dreams
I have wanted to start a blog for forever but I was so afraid of what others would think and that it would never be good enough. The result was I never started one. That was until one day I was tired of talking about it and knew I needed to take action. I wanted my kids to follow their dreams but how were they suppose to when I wasn’t. Again I needed to lead by example so I just did it.
My first blog post was not very good and I learn something new everyday but I’m doing it and I enjoy it so much. If you want to check out that first post you can HERE. I’m so glad I started.
I wasn’t focusing on what was important
I was so focused on making everything perfect that I wasn’t focusing on the most important thing to me – my children. This was actually driving them crazy with my need for them to always look nice and not make a mess. I needed my house to look perfect so my kids weren’t allowed to make a mess (which is crazy because that’s what kids do best).
Now I’m not saying the mess doesn’t drive me nuts and I have to give myself a pep talk when I see it to not freak out. But my kids can play and not worry about mom yelling and making them clean. I don’t worry about the perfect outfit and fight with my kids to wear it. This is the biggest area I have improved on and I hope my kids will agree. Now I spend more time with them. I let the mess sit there for a little bit so I can enjoy time with them. They are only young for a little bit so I need to enjoy them. I want them to grow up in a loving relax home. So I had to change my ways to do that.
I know change is hard and it takes time to go through it. I’m not saying it will be easy but it will be worth it. If you need some more help overcoming perfection and learning to enjoy life then please sign up for my free 5 day email challenge and let me help you. You can go HERE to learn more about it or sign up below and let’s get rid of this perfectionist mindset!