My Imperfect Thanksgiving

I use to hate holidays. My need to be perfect would usually ruin holidays. My kids would be grumpy and I would be stressed just trying to make it perfect. This year is going to be different. I’m not going to aim for perfection. I’m going to have an imperfect Thanksgiving.

This is the first year that Thanksgiving is not at our house because we are in the middle of selling it (that’s a whole other stressful story). We are having Thanksgiving at my brother’s house this year. With half of our house in boxes I just didn’t want the added stress so I started with moving Thanksgiving to someone else’s house. I knew I didn’t want to have a ton of kids running around when we have boxes around our house. It’s alright to tell people that you just can’t host the holiday this year if you know it will add more stress to your plate. Don’t feel bad about it.



I usually make my kids dress up so they will look nice for pictures. This year I will let them wear what they want. My middle daughter loves to dress up so she probably still will but I will not freak out if they wear play clothes. I will let them play without fear of them ruining their nice clothes. I will still take pictures but they won’t be posed shots of them all dressed up. There will be action shots of them having fun.

I will not have to spend hours cleaning my house so it looks perfect for guests. No one is coming to my house so I’m not cleaning at all. I use to wake up early to scrub my house before everyone got there. Who wants to clean on a holiday? Not me anymore. Even when we host Thanksgiving again I will not freak out about a crumb on the floor. If people don’t like the way my house looks then they can eat somewhere else. I really don’t think other people cared as much I did. After dinner I will help my brother clean up his house but as for my house  that will stay messy with its toys all over the floor.

I will wake up in the morning and not have fifty thousand things to do. Cuddling and watching the parade with my kids will be my priority. I might even take a bubble bath since my husband will be home. I will relax and enjoy the unrushed morning.

After we get home I will lay on the couch in a food coma and do nothing. When I’m not running around like a madwoman trying to make the holiday perfect and my kids perfect that it really is the most relaxing day ever. I really think my imperfect Thanksgiving will turn out to be the most perfect one I’ve had.

If you are hosting Thanksgiving at your house try to relax. The table doesn’t have to look perfect, your house doesn’t have to be spotless, and your kids don’t have to be all fancy. This holiday is about family and enjoying time with them. Trying to make it perfect will just stress you out which in turn will make everyone want to steer clear of you. Just do the best you can and remember it’s your holiday too so enjoy it.

Imperfect Thanksgiving


  1. Nicole | The Professional Mom Project

    November 20, 2016 at 7:58 pm

    Great advice. We all put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect whether having people for dinner or just a playdate and that can take away so much of the fun. The last time we hosted a big family dinner I bought a bunch of the meal so that we’d have an easier time.

    1. JillianGrover

      November 20, 2016 at 8:30 pm

      Thank you Nicole. I agree. We shouldn’t feel guilty about making the holidays easier on ourselves. They are meant to be enjoyed.

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