Is the Problem Really Your Weight?

From a young age we always hear the women in our lives say they need to lose a few pounds or go on a diet. Why are women so obsessed with a number on the scale? Your worth should not be determined by a number. It should be determined by how you feel.

Now I write that and I know I’ve said those things. Actually my resolution was to lose 20 pounds. If I do lose those 20 pounds what is going to happen? Am I magically going to be happier? Will my life all of a sudden become better? Probably not. I will be healthier and probably feel better about myself and that is how we should measure ourselves.

How do you feel when you wake up? Do you want to shut out the world and crawl back into bed? Then your problem isn’t probably your weight. It goes deeper. Being skinner isn’t going to make you want to bounce out of bed every morning and greet the world singing. You have to value who you are first before you make a change.

A few years ago I was miserable everyday. I made everyone around me miserable too. Finally I sat down and I made a list of things I did not like about myself. Now this list was not physical things, it was behaviors and the way I acted. I realized I woke up in a grumpy mood everyday and stayed in that mood all day. I knew I needed to change myself.

Find your happiness

Now I found happiness in the fitness world but that does not mean that losing weight will bring you happiness. It is a proven fact that exercise and eating right can make you feel better about yourself so I feel it’s a good place to start but don’t focus on weight. Focus on how you feel after that workout and after you went all day eating healthy. That feeling is better than any number you will see on a scale.




  1. Elizabeth

    February 2, 2017 at 2:54 pm

    This is so sensible and true – I have so many emotional feelings about weight etc that I’m realizing are not true things – just feelings. I think when I was a kid I absorbed the idea that being skinny made you a better person…errr not so 🙂 Anyway, I enjoyed reading this today!

    1. JillianGrover

      February 2, 2017 at 5:09 pm

      Thank you for your comment. It’s hard not to focus on weight when it is thrown in your face everyday. I’m trying to not focus on it and rather focus on how I’m feeling. Like you said you don’t have to be skinny to be happy.

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