Imperfect Thanksgiving

The holidays are suppose to be a time to spend with family and enjoy the season. My need to be perfect would usually ruin holidays. My kids would be grumpy and I would be stressed just trying to make it perfect. This year is going to be different. I’m not going to aim for perfection. I’m going to have an imperfect Thanksgiving. Here are some tips to help make Thanksgiving more enjoyable and not perfect.

Don’t stress about the food

If you are cooking Thanksgiving dinner this year then make sure you plan it out. There’s nothing like getting ready to cook and realizing you don;t have something or the turkey will take longer than you thought. Sit down and write everything you need before you go shopping. Don’t just wing it because you will forget something.

Next make sure you have a game plan for turkey day. Write down what time you have to prep the turkey, put the turkey in the oven and start the other dishes. Make sure you put some time in there to sit down, have a cup of coffee and watch the parade. This is your holiday too and you deserve some rest time.

I am very fortunate that my husband loves to cook and Thanksgiving is his favorite holiday (I know how lucky I am). He is handling most of the food. I will not hover over him this year. Instead I will ask what he needs help with and just do that. I know he is a great cook and the food will be delicious.


Let your kids have fun


I usually make my kids dress up so they will look nice for pictures.  Then I would spend all day telling them to stay off the floor and not run around so they wouldn’t ruin their nice clothes. This year I will let them wear what they want. I will let them play without fear of them ruining their nice clothes. I will still take pictures but they won’t be posed shots of them all dressed up. There will be action shots of them having fun.


People are coming to see you not your house

I use to wake up early to scrub my house before everyone got there. Who wants to clean on a holiday? Not me! Most people are not looking at your house anyway. Just do a quick clean of the basic areas and call it good. They will not be getting down on the floor to make sure your baseboards are clean, trust me.

Make time for family

This year I want to cuddle and watch the parade with my kids.There’s no reason not to. Plan your day around having some time to actually talk to people and enjoy their company. If you are running around trying to make every detail perfect, you will miss out on what Thanksgiving is about. It’s about being grateful for what you have.

When you are not running around like a madwoman trying to make the holiday perfect and the kids perfect than it can be a relaxing day. I really think my imperfect Thanksgiving will turn out to be the most perfect one I’ve had.

If you are hosting Thanksgiving at your house try to relax. The table doesn’t have to look perfect, your house doesn’t have to be spotless, and your kids don’t have to be all fancy. This holiday is about family and enjoying time with them. Trying to make it perfect will just stress you out which in turn will make everyone want to steer clear of you. Just do the best you can and remember it’s your holiday too so enjoy it.

Bonus video:

Imperfect Thanksgiving


  1. Michelle

    November 19, 2017 at 8:11 am

    Loved this! A serious reality check to focus on what is really important this coming Thanksgiving!

    1. JillianGrover

      November 19, 2017 at 11:37 am

      Thank you Michelle! We always forget it’s our holiday too and we should get to enjoy it. Have a very Happy Thanksgiving!

  2. Joanna @ Modern Rustic Mom

    November 19, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    So so true, Jillian. Thanks for the reminder. Happy Thanksgiving!

    1. JillianGrover

      November 20, 2017 at 5:50 am

      Thank you for reading! I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving too!

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