Why we feel less then perfect: mindset
Most of the time we do not feel perfect. I know I don’t. I make a lot of mistake and sometimes slack off and I don’t do what I’m suppose to. We all do it because we are only human and there is no such thing as perfect. You can not be perfect but you can be the perfect you. There is only one you and you are perfectly that person. So let’s strive to be the best version of you. Here are a few ways that we feel less than perfect and how to change them around. Now these things won’t make you perfect but they will help you live to your full potential.
The way we think about ourselves and talk to ourselves plays a huge part in how we feel about ourselves. We will only believe what our mind is telling us. Here are a few ways to get past those mindset blocks.
Stop Comparing yourself to others
You can only be yourself. You have not walked in other people’s shoes and you don’t know their life. Yes they can seem to have the perfect life on Instagram or Facebook but you don’t know what it looks like behind the scenes. Everyone is a hot mess at some point but people don’t post that on social media. I wrote a post all about comparison and how it can drive you crazy. You can click HERE to read it.
Stop telling ourselves that we are not good enough
One of the biggest problems is that we are listening to that little voice inside our heads that says we are not good enough. We are not a good mother, we suck at our jobs or we will never be able to do what we want to do. Stop listening to that voice! Find ways to silence it because it is not true. Change the negative things you say about yourself into positive things. Next time you hear yourself say “I am a horrible mother”, turn it around and say “ I am doing the best I can as a mother and my children love me and I love them”. Find the positive in every situation and tell that negative voice to Shut Up!!
Stop trying to live up to impossible standards
We set these standards for what we want to do and then when we don’t meet them we beat ourselves up. Look at those goals that you set for yourself and ask if they are really realistic. If you set a goal to lose 20 pounds in one month that might be setting yourself up for failure. I’m not saying it’s not possible but with everything else we have going on it might be difficult to achieve. Then when you only lose 5 pounds you are disappointed instead of happy about the 5 pounds you lost.
Now I’m not saying to not set the bar high and try to push yourself but don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t reach that hard goal. Instead celebrate what you did do.