The effect trying to be perfect has on us

Trying to be perfect all the time is exhausting. Always worrying about every little detail and running around trying to get everything just right. It’s enough to drive you crazy and take up all your time. Here are a few things that trying to be perfect leads to and ways to overcome it:

Leads to burn out

When you are always worrying about something and always on the go you eventually can’t do it anymore. It leads to being so exhausted that your mind will not be able to do anymore. You will be so exhausted that you actually stop caring about things. This can also lead to depression. Because you know you should be doing things but you physically and mentally can’t bring yourself to do them.

So how do you avoid burnout? Take some time to rest. Don’t only give your body a rest but also your mind. You can’t be worried about everything all the time. Take time to do nothing or get lost in a show or book. You can click HERE to read a post I wrote about ways to get more rest time in.


Leads to nothing being good enough for you

If you are always worried about making things perfect then you forget to appreciate everything you do have. It can make you start taking things for granted and just focusing on what isn’t right about your life. You can never achieve perfection. It doesn’t exist so stop aiming for it. Start appreciating what you have right in front of you.

My daughter use to be afraid to show me anything because it might not live up to my standards. I was always correcting her and showing her the right way to do things instead of letting her be herself. My daughter was afraid to tell me things and be herself. I knew that if I didn’t start appreciating what she did do for me (even if it wasn’t done right) then I was going to have a child who thought she could do nothing right. That’s definitely not what I wanted. So when she would do something instead of pointing out what wasn’t right I started pointing out what was right and complimenting her on that.

So look around and make a list of what is good in your life and appreciate it!

If you need help learning to love yourself and embrace your imperfections then check out my free self-compassion course. Click HERE to learn more.

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The effect trying to be perfect has on us



  1. Alicia Roberts

    July 16, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    Thanks for sharing. I am also a “recovering perfectionist” and I hate the toll it took on my children. I also am working to point out the good instead of always correcting. Great info!

    1. JillianGrover

      July 17, 2017 at 5:02 am

      I’m so glad you liked it! When we see what our perfectionist ways are doing to our kids and other around us it really makes us rethink the way we have been acting. We are still a work in progress but making small steps is the way to go. I’m working on pointing out the good too. Thanks for reading and commenting!

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