When you don’t feel like it

Do you ever feel like you just do not want to do something? Not just the I’m tired and don’t feel like it but the I don’t feel this is right for me or this does not bring me joy feeling.

If you are just doing something because it’s what other people are doing or what you feel they expect from you but you are miserable then I’m giving you permission right now to stop doing it. Life is too short to spend on things that make you unhappy.  Here are a few of my tips to help when you don’t want to do something.

Ask yourself why you are doing it

Why do you feel the need to be involved in this thing. Is it because other people are relying on you or because you have just always done it? Maybe it’s because it makes you happy to see the outcome. Dig deep down and decide why you want or don’t want to do this thing.

 Ask yourself what is the worst thing that could happen if I don’t do this

Ask yourself what is going to happen if this does not get done. Go to worse case scenario, it might not be as bad as you think it will be. Maybe you can pass it off to someone else or get help. Trust me the world will not end if you say no to something.

 Ask yourself what is the best thing that could happen if I did this

Maybe turn your view around and say what could I gain from doing this thing even though I really don’t want to. Sometimes just looking at something differently can really change your mind about it.

 Unfortunately sometimes you just have to suck it up

Sometimes you have to do something no matter how much you don’t want to. I don’t want to go to work everyday but I need money to live in my house and feed my children so I do it. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and get it done and focus on the outcome not the actual event.
Sometimes we feel better prepare for things we don’t want to do when we have an actual plan and thought process. 

If you need help learning to ask for help so you have more time to enjoy motherhood then check out my free Learning to Ask for and Accept Help Course. Click HERE to learn more.

If a course isn’t your thing then I also have a free Facebook group called Let’s Be Real that will offer support and tips to embrace your imperfections and enjoy life more. Click HERE to join.

Don't feel like it


  1. Michelle C

    April 23, 2017 at 8:22 am

    Great article!! We are always trying to be super-moms…and we ALWAYS try to take on too much. It makes me feel so much better that I’m not the only mom that has to ask herself..will it really be that bad if something doesn’t get done.

    1. JillianGrover

      April 23, 2017 at 9:32 am

      Yes I always feel the mom guilt when I don’t do something for my kids but sometimes things just don’t fit into our schedules. We just have to give ourselves grace and do the best we can.

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