Dads and Perfection

In honor of Father’s Day I decided to get a dad’s view on perfectionism. As mothers there is always this need to feel like we have to be perfect.  Do dads feel this same need? I interviewed my husband to see his take on feeling like he needs to be the perfect father. My husband’s name is Morgan and we have been together 16 years and married 11 years. We have 3 children together.

As a dad do you feel you need to be the perfect father? Why or why not?

No I just do the best I can. I don’t feel any pressure to live up to other fathers because I don’t think they are judging me. There really is no such thing as perfect.

 Why do you feel that fathers don’t feel the same pressures as mothers?

It’s like the natural order of things that women are more nurturing and the men are the gathers. Men are more involved now but I think women feel like they need to live up to the women before them. Men have never had that pressure when it comes to raising their children.

How do you think that mothers can relax a little more and not feel like they need to be perfect all the time?

They need to stop worrying they are doing everything wrong and just do the best you can. Your kids won’t be perfect but just know that you love them and did your best.

Next Step for moms

If you need help learning to ask for help so you have more time to enjoy motherhood then check out my free Learning to Ask for and Accept Help Course. Click HERE to learn more.

If a course isn’t your thing then I also have a free Facebook group called Let’s Be Real that will offer support and tips to embrace your imperfections and enjoy life more. Click HERE to join.

Why don't dads feel the need for perfection


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